Tuesday, March 14, 2006

Tempers and Temperaments

I'm wondering how much of what type of parent I will be depends on the temperament of the baby that comes out. When I was born I had jaundice and then colic for 6 months and I wore my parents out in a hurry. Mr. Renn was an angelic baby, as were/are most of his nieces. Unless they are in physical discomfort they are happy as clams.

Mr. Renn and I have been borderline sinning, or at least pushing our luck. We've started praying for our baby to have a good temperament... at least for the first 3 months. We're not certain we can survive all of the changes with a cranky baby. (Yes I am knocking on wood continually). I'm sure we'll do whatever is asked of us and ultimately be fine. We know perfectly well that the most important thing is a healthy baby (we pray for that first). We've just started to slip in "and if it wouldn't be too much trouble could our baby be sort of low maintenance, at least for a little while?"

The baby woke me up 4 times last night being rather squirmy. That can't be a good sign. Aren't we silly?


hairyshoefairy said...

My husband is hoping for the same thing. He wants to have a baby like I was first. He's worried that if we have a baby like he was first I won't want to have any more after that. He was a bit of a problem child. He's also hoping for a baby that we can train to sleep well in a month so by the time he starts school again it will be sleeping through the night. Along with reinforcements from some friends I keep telling him that's probably not happening. He's still hoping though.

Anonymous said...

Caden has been a wonderful baby. He was a very very easy baby. No colic, slept through the night at 2 months and still does at 14 months! He can entertain himself with books or toys and is just a great kid. My husband says we are in trouble with our next kid.....

Tracy M said...

Uh, um, yeah. Good luck with that, is all I can say. Your kids come to you who they are- and both of ours, so far, have been a handful from the word go.

My brother and his wife have an easy, happy baby. Hooray for them- but not something I can relate to. And it has nothing to do with my parenting- it has to do with who my kids are, predating me.

Don't get me wrong, I am hoping and praying that the soon-to-arrive #3 will be easier than her brothters, but I'm so not holding my breath.

The thing I am finally learning is this: The Lord knows what he is doing in giving you the children he does. You influence and guide your children, but you have very little to do with their actual personalities. After two very difficult children, (by anyone's standards) I am beginning to see why they were sent to US. My brother and his wife can barely tollerate it when my nephew whimpers- if they had our kids, they would have gotten divorced. So just have faith that your child will be exactly what you need from the Lord, and let that faith carry you when things are difficult. And know that, no matter what you may think now, you have more reserves and more ability than you can even begin to imagine. ;)

Just my two cents worth, from another mama. You're going to do just fine.

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